Thursday, February 6, 2014

Strap'd up: SEX worth dying for




They say that "What you don't know can hurt you"! By now, we all should know that having unprotected sex can hurt your body, your feelings, and the quality of life you want to live. But it seems these fact are still not serious enough for people to stop having unprotected sex, and get tested with and/or without their partner. Look, I am not here to judge no one. We all have engaged in some kind of reckless behavior at one time or another.  I am just here to help people, my black people especially get there mind right.
     With all these stories I see in the media and read about, I feel the need to address this topic. One would think being involved in this risky behavior is a poverty dilemma, or a poor person thing but it isn't. Why is it that people like having unprotected sex? I know sex feel good, but the feeling after it's over should scare the shit out of anyone in there right mind. How many people have had the thoughts, "I hope I don't get pregnant" , "I hope he hasn't slept with a lot of other girls unprotected", "I hope she is clean". Many of these things would not worry us if we strap up like we should,  if we get tested and ask our partner to do the same but most importantly wait til the results are in before jumping in the bed raw-dawging. The doctors tell us to wait a couple months before having unprotected sex for  reason. If your partner contracted something from the lifestyle they lived before you, and you wait the appropriate amount of time to sleep with them without  condom, more than likely if something come up in their test you don't have to worry about it affecting you. Nowadays people meet, either in person or on Facebook, twitter, or Instagram and sleep around right away. Sometimes by the 3rd month of even knowing each other they are not using a condom. Who in they right mind think that this is O.K? This is letting someone you don't know, don't love, and don't care about choose your destiny. Come on my black brothers and sisters. Your life is much more precious than this.
     I always use to so say pregnancy was not the worse thing that can happen because you could always get rid of a baby. I know, I know that's cold, but there are somethings out here that you can not get rid of and may hider you in ways you never thought of. When I read stories about Dwyane Wade, and Paul George who both got females they were not with pregnant while allegedly being in a relationship with someone else, I instantly get pissed. I don't get upset because of the cheating. I am just reminded of  how all these STD's spread. How these disease can be transmitted to people girlfriend, wife, husbands. I'm like damn, I wish people  would keep their risky behavior and all that come with it to themselves. This is why I say this problem is not a rich or poor thing because both of these guys are paid.   
      I came across another story about HIV positive 22 year old college student named Michael Johnson who taped sex acts and exposed over 30 people to the virus without telling them his status. This is sad. Many people are promiscuous in college and probably do not expect something so devastating to happen in an educational environment. This is a harsh way to realize how you do not know the people you  share campus with. My heart goes out to the victims.
     Ive also heard of another story about a police officer in West Palm Beach, FL,  Ervans Saintclair who exposed women to HIV, even the mother of his children. It seems that people do not care about hurting other people, and for this reason we should ask our partners to get tested. If they care for us, hell if they care about their life they would do it and respect your wishes. If they act like your request is a problem for them and want you to trust what they say run away quick, fast, and in a hurry. Craig Davis, another HIV positive man in Atlanta, GA was arrested for spreading HIV among his congregation. A pastor- not only sinning and committing fornication, things he should be preaching against but had the nerve to infect his members. I know that God is merciful, but I also know that he will pay this Mr. Davis back and others like him for what they have done. On the other hand, God did put these STD's out here as punishment for not living a clean and holy life he expects. Sex is natural. He want us to have sex, but he also want us to do it the way he approves of. 
     I can go on and on about why we should protect ourselves. Ive had some great sex in my life, but not so good it's worth dying for. Have you? Please, I'm urging and begging you all to know your staus, know your partner staus and protect your health like it is you social security number lol. If you don't love your sex partner, love yourself enough to do so.  Some mistakes are life threatening and this is one of those things. Black people, please lets stop doing NIGGER SHIT or ignorant shit. Between killing each other with guns and killing each other with sex, we are about to be extinct as a race. We have so much potential, and we have become so strong because of our struggles. Now we need to be smart! Put on a condom, strap up, don't have sex raw, don't just put the tip in, don't try to see what it feel like without knowing who you are getting yourself into. You cant just look at a person and tell if they are healthy, or clean. No matter how thick he is, how fine she is, how big her butt is or how much money he may earn."no glove, no love" should be the motto we live by. I care for you all, I pray for you all, I empathize for you all. Black power!